What about Love?

This Lesson is about enabling you to talk freely among yourselves without regard to any set lesson plan. In this lesson, we will focus on discussing different questions about and aspects of

love.

Target Questions

Have you ever been in love?
Who was your first love?
What is your definition of love? Is it a feeling? Is it an emotion?
How is love for family and friends different from love for a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife? Is it just the romantic side which is different?
If you didn’t marry your first love, will you ever forget him/her?
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Do you think men fall in love more easily than women? Is it possible to love (in a romantic sense) more than one person at the same time?
If you break up with someone you love, do you still love them?
Can you stop loving someone?
Does “love conquer all” or are there limits to love?
Is it possible to be happily married without loving your spouse?
Do you believe in unconditional love, or can love be selfish?

If you were the leader of a country, would you rather be loved or feared?
Have you ever had a case of “puppy love?”
Have you ever been in love with your teacher?
Have you ever been in love with someone who had a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife?
Do you love to talk about love?

Dating

The topics included in this section will enable you to talk freely among yourselves about interesting and engaging topics without regard to any set lesson plan. This topic will deal with the different aspects of dating and the complex relationship between men and women. Discuss your ideas after reading the following article.

Cafes, theaters, popular hot spots for young Korean dating couples .When it comes to where couples actually go on a date not that much has changed over the years. However, the changes in the way the dating ritual is carried out, from making the first move to paying the bill, are revealing of the general attitudes of a generation.

First, the concept of a café has changed so that it is now regarded as a comprehensive leisure venue. The added attraction is entertainment. Rock cafes were the rage a couple of years ago; this year it’s jazz cafes, pocket ball cafes, sports café and for the serious, even business cafes.

Another major change from the old generation is the role of women in dating. From passive receivers women have become more active players often taking the initiative by making the first move, deciding where to go, and paying the bill.

As in the past, for most people, their date partners are those who have been introduced through friends or relatives. Not knowing someone’s background and position in society makes people wary of asking someone out that they have met on the street or bumped into in line at the bank.

Another show of conservatism is the widespread belief that the man should be the one to make the first move:

For university students the old ritual of the “meeting” is still a popular one. But it is increasingly something for the younger generation. In a recent survey 40 percent of high school students said they have been to a meeting at least once and some middle school students also.

Questions for Discussion

1. What’s the best way to pay for a date: to take turns paying, or to have one partner pick up the whole tab?
2. What are dates like in Korea? Do you think going for a dinner or the movies are the best forms of entertainment for a date?
3. Where is the best place you’ve been on a date? Describe the best date you’ve ever had. What would be your dream date?
4. Do you have any good friends of the opposite sex? Do you believe that men and women can “just” be friends?
5. Do you believe that men should always make the first move?
6. How is dating in Korea different than dating in the West?
7. Is it ok in Korean culture for a girl or boy to date multiple people before they get married? How serious is a dating relationship in Korea?
8. How does the older generation feel about dating? If you have a girlfriend or boyfriend do they expect you to marry that person?
9. What does it mean to have a girlfriend/boyfriend in Korea? Are you allowed to hang out with other friends of the opposite sex when you were young?
10. Have you ever been hurt in a relationship before? How did it feel? How did you deal with the pain?
11. Do you think that the changes in boy/girl relationships in Korea over the last 20 years are positive? Why or why not?
12. If you have kids someday, what advice will you give them about dating? Will you allow them to date freely?

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